I’m Not Your Average Counselor Next Door
Ceddy on Nov 29 2007 at 12:00 am
I am a very good listener but most of the time sometimes I can be a really fucked up adviser, mainly because there are times I feel that I don’t really have to teach someone to do something they know, and most importantly, it has NOTHING to do with me.
Recently I pissed someone off but I’m not willing to apologize because I see no point in it. Ok wanna know what happened? Let me show you what he wrote to me and how I replied.
I am so depressed lately, me and my (soon to be ex) girlfriend always have arguments and I found out that lately she has been cheating on me. I know I should have dumped her when I found out because I know it’s unfair for my part, I have been sacrificing everything to her, I gave her everything I have but deep down I know I cannot leave her like that, because it is going to cause injury to her. I know I am being too kind hearted to let her do whatever she wants or take advantage but I know I cannot just hurt her like that, but it just hurts me so bad. I know you’re going to hate me for expressing this to you, do you think I’m an idiot?
My very honest reply:
“Yes.“
Then this son of a bitch got very upset with me. Frankly speaking, what the fuck is all that about? I’m not your love counselor and look at his freak statements, looks like HE KNOWS everything and since HE KNOWS everything… How am I supposed to tell him what to do? Besides, he asked me if he is an idiot, but seeing that HE KNOWS his current state and yet he still wanna dwell with it, tell me how can I say he’s NOT AN IDIOT?I’m not good in handling complicated relationship problems that’s why I chose to sit on the fence, look, if I say, “Break up with that bitch.”, it’s like I’m ruining someone’s relationship and it’s gonna be damn bad. If I say, “No… Stay with her.”, I’m putting someone’s soul in danger. So I might as well just sit on the fence and DON’T CARE.
Have you ever heard someone whining to you about his/her relationship problem? And how many of you really pour your efforts to guide your friends? And oh! Before you think that I’m not a good friend, let me tell you, I’ve advised that bitch ONCE and my principle is like this: ONCE IS ENOUGH!
haha…he seems to knw everything except he doesn’t knws he’s an idiot?lols.
I think he’s just seeking your condolences.
But your answer is straightforward, and to a third-party person, it’s terribly funny! HAHAHA
Your bottom line is one of my principles.
ONCE IS ENOUGH!!!
Muahaha!!!!
Your very honest reply,
LMAO!!!!!
Sure make me fall down if you are saying that to me.
SWT x infinity
Confession is an agreement of dia punya statement.. nth to say wan le this.. just listen nia.. and a pat in the shoulder LOL
sometimes this happen when the person naik angin or seriously pussy about it..!!!weee..*wink*
You’re right, sometimes it’s quite hard to give opinions to people, especially when it involves relationships. It’s like no matter what you say it’s going to sound so bad and hurtful to that person.
I’ve encountered this kind of problems before, many times actually, sometimes I give my honest opinions, sometimes I just ask them to solve the problems themselves. I don’t really want to be blamed at the end of the day for ruining the relationship.
I feel that it is pointless to advice an idiot who knows but doesn’t act. It’s like they are just asking for advise for the sake of asking. It’s not like they are going to do anything about it… So no point advising them, it’s a waste of time…
Lovefool :P
Sometimes i’ll just bear with them coz they can’t really think logically.
I’d just go like “hmm… hmm… ya… ya… no… no…”
Haha
Yeah.. I hate to be the counsellor too when it comes to friend’s love and relationship problems. But as much as I hate it, I can’t help it. I always have the urge to say something to him/her. Although I know that most of the time, all my advices and craps are not taken seriously. (Thanks to my freaking “kepoh” genes I have in me) Sigh~~
SaeWei: You’re just too kind but you should know me, I’m a mean machine. :P
Max: Yeah that’s the thing, like I said, I get annoyed when someone asks me question abruptly and get pissed when they can’t get their desired answer. Gahhh!!!
Anna: True that! As much as I keep “advising” them, it’s not like they are going to listen anyway… So it’s a waste of time! Like what you said! BRAVO!
Lovie: Yeah! Cuz right now they can be in the midst of fight, so if you picked a side and when they reconciled again, that’s when you become the evil party. So might as well juz back off!
WillaZz: LOL… Will hear more from you when we meet again. :P
JJ: Wei! Im not at the wrong ok? Haha
Jane: Yeah!!! Gimme a high 5, cuz I believe that it’s no point repeating like mad!
Jon Boy: Ish! Funny meh? You should see the full version of this, he used bad words on me summore. Nabeh I don’t show mercy ady, if life is treatin him so badly then go to hell lar. Simple.
Alicia: Well… Maybe!
reli WTF man..
Hey, I would have reply the same thing. If asked the same question I’ll say: Yes, you r so stupid n dump. Why didn’t you dump her after you knew she was cheating on you? You deserve this. You don’t have to feel sad because you ask for it! So get over it and stop being stupid and dump!
Yup, thats what i would have said if anyone told that. You did the right thing man. I see no reason to apologize after all, he did asked you if he was an idiot. So being a nice friend I too would answer him honestly.
Alistair: Yeah! Great minds think alike! Yeah nothing wrong with being frank right? But I guess some people couldn’t take it, oh well… none of my business anyway~
Flux: Yep! Really WTF!